We are on the verge of something big. Our children will be the first generation who will be raised without the indoctrination that characterized our childhoods. But since this has never been done before, at least in recent history, we don’t have a guide to work from. How are we going to raise our children to live in the new world that is taking shape?
The old world is passing…
We were raised to believe that certain truths were incontrovertible.
- Democracy is the best form of government. The more people that vote, the better the democracy.
- Globalism is good. Nationalism is always totalitarian and always leads to war and genocide.
- Politicians in a democracy represent their voters.
- Be a conformist and a follower.
- To become successful, study hard. Get good grades. Get into a good college. Get a job and work hard. Max out your 401k. Retire at 65.
- Consuming is the way to happiness.
- Eat six servings of whole grains everyday. Avoid fat.
- Cardio is the best exercise for losing fat.
- Men and women are completely equal. The reason that girls play with dolls and boys play with swords and guns is due to cultural conditioning, not inherent differences.
- Different races are completely equal and interchangeable. Differences are not genetic. They are a result of differences in how children are raised.
…and a new world is forming
We now know that all of the incontrovertible truths listed above are false. Well, at least those of us who have taken the red pill and unplugged from the Matrix.
But what do we teach our children in its place? How do we equip them to live alongside other children who are still receiving the old indoctrination?
There is no guide
To make things more difficult, this kind of radical paradigm shift has never happened in recent history. We don’t have a model to look to for guidance.
We also don’t know how what the future looks like:
- Will we continue to live in relative peace? Or should we prepare our children for war?
- How should we educate our children?
- How do we give them the best start?
I don’t have all the answers, but I will share my thoughts in a series of posts. I welcome your advice as well. Together, we can help each other ensure that our kids will be able to deal with the massive change that is coming.
Laying the Foundation: Babies and Toddlers
I have two boys. One is three years old and the second is almost three months old. Children learn rapidly during this time, but the focus is on learning about the world around them—not on abstract concepts like democracy. One of the best things we can do during these first three critical years is ensure that they develop a healthy body.
If we lived in a healthy society, laying the foundation would be the norm. But we do not live in a healthy society. The modern world puts both mothers and fathers on a treadmill of work and consumption. This makes what I am about to say seem like a profligate luxury.
But this is one luxury that you should strive to achieve—even if it means you have no other luxuries in your life. A BMW is an extravagance you can live without. Putting time into your children, though, is an investment in something that is eternal.
How can you build a solid foundation of good health? Here are some ideas.
Have your wife stay at home
Yes, this means that your wife cannot work, and that means a significant loss of income. It is worth it.
You’ll get lots of benefits is that your child will be healthier than children in daycare. Daycare kids are constantly sick. Besides the difficulty of caring for a sick child (one of the least pleasant things you will ever have to do), keeping your child healthy will allow him to grow faster. It will also minimize his exposure to antibiotics and procedures such ear operations to treat frequent infections.
Having mom care for your children is the best thing for their development as well. No institution is going to spend as much time with your children as your wife.
The last downside to daycare is that it teaches a regimented approach. Children learn to “follow the rules.” In other words, children learn to be good sheep. But being a sheep is part of the old world. We need to teach our children to be leaders rather than followers.
If you can’t afford to let your wife stay home, see if you can get a relative, like grandma, to care for your baby. Someone who loves your child will always treat your child better than some stranger.
Your wife should breast feed
There is no formula that is good for baby as his mother’s milk—for at least six months. In addition to nourishment, mother’s milk provides immunity factors to your baby that they will not be able to get otherwise.
This is another good argument for your wife to stay home.
While it is possible for working women to pump and freeze their milk so that the daycare workers can feed him via a bottle, but that puts an enormous burden on the mother. And pumping makes it difficult to prepare for cluster feedings. There are times when an infant will be attached to his mother’s breast most of the day. These are times when the baby is going through a growth spurt and needs the extra nourishment.
But what happens if the daycare workers run out of mother’s milk during a cluster feeding stage? Your baby may have to go without the extra calories he needs to grow.
Nutrition post weaning
Your child’s nutrition after weaning is incredibly important. Most children in the US now eat high- carb, low-fat, low-protein breakfasts and lunches. They are easy to prepare and they taste good so that kids eat them readily.
One problem: they are not good for our kids.
Children need to eat real food: eggs, whole fat milk, beef, chicken, pork, vegetables, and fruit, preferably organic. Our government and “health authorities” tell us that whole foods are somehow bad for our kids. My wife and I have disregarded their advice completely.
Don’t make special high carb meals for your children. I notice that Asian and Indian families make their children eat the same thing that the parents are eating for dinner. American families often have one, healthy meal for the parents, but a separate, low nutrition meal, such as pizza or chicken nuggets, for their children. Don’t fall into this trap.
Sound nutrition will give your children glowing health—and they will grow big. Both of my boys started off small. They were born early and weighed less than seven pounds. We fed our oldest unprocessed foods and he is now in the 99th percentile for height and weight.
Spend lots of time outside
We’ve gotten away from children playing outdoors. Now we put them in front of a TV and let them watch Disney movies in an infinite loop.
But children love to be outside. My oldest never wants to go in, even when it is bitterly cold in the winter. In the outdoors, children can be most imaginative with their play, throwing rocks, digging, looking at bugs, and playing with sticks. And don’t neglect running, jumping, and playing catch.
Being outside will even benefit their health. There is evidence that playing in the dirt exposes our children to different types of dusts and bacteria that will strengthen their immunity. Some experts speculate that keeping our children inside in a germ free, dust free environment creates allergies later in life.
Being outdoors in the sunlight is also better for their eyesight. Near-sightedness in children has been tied to lack of sunlight.
We need to get closer to nature, and playing outside your child is one excellent way to do that.
The Romans had the saying, “Mens sana in corpore sano” or “A sound mind in a sound body.” Moderns reject this advice and focus solely on mental development through education. The fruit of this rejection is we’ve created a society of fat women who are on antidepressants and weak, effeminate men.
If we properly lay the foundation for our children, they will be better prepared to handle the uncertainty that lies in the future.
Firstly, congrats on relatively recent addition to your family. My first is due any day now *checks his phone for messages for the thousands time today* and I can’t wait. This is a great choice of topic with top advice.
I’m a medium term reader and a first time commentor. I’m also on the cusp of joining the Alt-Right. Still making my mind up. One of the issues that stops me joining is evident in a line you write in your article. I was wondering if listen while I discuss it. “Having your wife stay at home.”
As a background, my wife is a stay at home wife who believes wholeheartedly (as do I) in every point you’ve written. I’m just immensely proud of her and she has a strong sense of female pride that she was smart enough not to waste her time in a bollocksed up attempt at a career while she got older and unhappier. I love her so much for it and more.
But it was never because I “had” her do it, or even “asked” her. If fact, her capacity to make such a wise decision was only possible because I was such a high income earner who made good financial decisions in my early years. I worry that the Alt Right fixates on “what women should do” and how “terrible feminism is” rather than “what we as men should do to entice femininity into the above role”. I have a strong suspicion that women attempt careers in 2016 because men don’t provide a good enough family life for them. Either a) we are too Beta Male to provide them with what we need, or b) once we get them into a home we treat them badly and make them regret placing themselves within our care.
Telling women (or indeed anyone) what to do will never work endemically. But we could present a easy choice for them. They can grind out a terrible existence that they’re not good at, or live safely and prosperously under our loving protection. The most important factor involves men’s abilities, not female choices.
Am I off target here?
Michael Sebastian says
Congrats to you and your wife on your first!
You raise a very good point. I believe that husbands do have a leadership role in the marriage. We see it not only in the New Testament but in classical civilizations so it is something that is part of being human and not just a cultural construct as moderns would have us believe.
That said, it should rarely, if ever, take the form of a husband “commanding” his wife to do something or other. Rather, the husband sets the family mission in consultation with his wife. The husband and the wife are then naturally on the same page, so they both act to fulfill the family mission.
Like you, I see masculine leadership as more of a burden than some privilege to be exploited. It is the husband’s job to provide for his family and to be the rock when times get tough.
Some men in the manosphere and alt-right do have a naive idea about women. It could be that this is coming from some of the younger guys who aren’t married. There is also some resentment: a lot of Western women have inadvertently taken themselves out of the marriage market. That means more guys chasing fewer suitable women. At the end of the day, just ignore these more extreme voices when it comes to male/female relations.
I believe most women want to stay home with their children. In most cases, their decision to return to work is more a product of the husband’s salary being insufficient than it is a real desire to “lean in.”
On the other hand, feminism did increase the labor supply which drove wages down making it harder to find the single earner job that would provide a comfortable living. This is another factor that fuels resentment and leads to the alt-right or to support of Bernie Sanders.
Thank you for reading and the best of luck with the new baby.
Simon Wolfe says
Michael, I love posts like this. There isn’t a great deal of solid advice on the internet for husbands and fathers. It is what would have been once known as common sense but which has been lost under waves of political correctness and modern nonsense. As the red pill grows up and marries and has children I think we’ll see more of this.
Charlie, I’m married with two children and also fortunate enough to be in a position where my wife can stay at home with the children full time. Not because she is bullied into it but because she intuitively knows she is happier and safer there. She could go out to work and we would have a materially better life, a nicer car, a bigger house, one week a year in the Caribbean, but at what cost?
It would be bullying to push her out of the family home every morning, commuting on packed public transport into a filthy city and working for the profit of corporations and government. At home our children get the full value of her labour. Nobody is profiteering or skimming off the first 30-40% and she doesn’t have to walk through rapist-infested neighbourhoods clutching her purse.
Of course, it sounds like you already understand this, but as things get worse it is going to become more obvious to more people until eventually it becomes unavoidable. Take Cologne for example – it’s pointless to argue whether those girls who were attacked were sluts, feminists or how short their skirts were or whatever. Had those girls been wives and daughters the whole sorry affair likely wouldn’t have happened. Even if it did we would have seen an angry mob of husbands and fathers clearing the streets or gathering at the town hall.
As it is, they were atomised individuals who have wandered from the protection of their families and into the care of the state, and as we’re beginning to see, the state is a very poor guardian that doesn’t care a great deal about protecting women from rape. It cares a great deal about putting them to work and taking their taxes. Protecting them, not so much. Slowly but surely, people are going to realise this.
There constant advance of the left will make the world more disordered and more dangerous, and it will become more obvious that the strong, independent woman is a myth. There’s a lot we can do in the meantime. There’s an awful amount of modernist programming that needs to be undone. Make a big deal of our families. Show off the trad lifestyle. Show the young single women that children are more rewarding than cats. Show married life as an oasis of calm and safety in an increasingly dangerous world.
Simon Wolfe says
P.S. My congratulations also!
I´ve been always positive to this narrative, unfortunately i live in a country where laws overprotect women, and having a housewife means that if in somecase i divorce, i will must cash her up for lifetime (alimony for kids not included).
Also, i should note that due the high unemplyement rate of my conuntry and the labour market inestability, only one family member working it´s too risky.
The last but certainly not least point, is that with one income it´s almost impossbile to sustain a whole family in my country, in this case maths overwhelm my desires.
In conclusion althouth i consider you point the correct path in your article, it´s very difficult to live this way.
Michael Sebastian says
There is something very wrong with a political and economic system that forces women to work away from the home and put their children into an institution for childcare. There is also something perverse about divorce laws that encourage the same behavior.
It is designed to work this way. Corporations benefit from reduced labor costs due to the increased supply of working women. Salaries are reduced so a man cannot support a family by himself. Institutionalizing children at a young age makes them more compliant—which in turn makes them better citizens for a state that wants a high degree of control.
What I describe is an ideal. Due to circumstances, not all parents will be able to embrace it, but that doesn’t mean they are “bad” parents.
That said, we cannot allow this situation to continue. There is a wave of discontent sweeping across the West that promises to shake up the status quo. As men, it is up to us to make it happen. Please stay tuned.
Mark Citadel says
Practical stuff like this is very useful and not appreciated enough. Thanks for writing it. I would say also, that while pumping from the breast is better than formula, feeding at the breast is definitely better still because it is an act of intimacy essential not just for the child who will have the mother as their carer, but for the woman herself. I have said, as Evola did, one of the essential poles of femininity is motherhood, the expression of the mother, an essential part of which is the ability of the female body to produce sustenance that can be provided for the baby through physical contact.
Michael Sebastian says
My wife just told me yesterday that there is evidence that breast milk deteriorates rapidly and loses a lot of its nutritional value. So those poor women who are waking up at 3AM to pump so that their children will have milk while they are in day care are not even getting the full benefit of their labor.
So true about the physical contact as well. My youngest’s favorite napping places is his mother’s lap.
Ultimately, motherhood is the very essence of what it means to be a woman.
Another great article. An additional point that I’d throw in is to have a bit of land if at all possible. A rural or semi-rural location with a few acres is wonderful. You don’t have to be a farmer, but a rural/homestead upbringing does a lot of good for kids.
If one can’t manage that, then I’d get the largest lot possible for your house. This gives the kids more room to play, to grow a huge garden, and makes opportunities for chores. My house is on 1/3 acre (pretty good for a living in a city of 200,000), still I have a large 2600 square foot garden. Separate from the garden, I have seven fruit trees, and six grape vines. We also have a few hens in a chicken tractor. Thus, we get our own fruit, vegetables, and eggs year around. All that makes for a better diet, but also adds physical activity. It feels great to produce at least a portion of your own food.
I’d love to have an acre or more. Then, I’d scale up my fruit, vegetable, and livestock production far more. I’d also add an archery range (if feasible).
If I had ten to twenty acres, I’d probably include more livestock, some forest land, and likely a shooting (rifle) range.
I will never forget the day my 2 year girl so grass for the first time after we moved from the inner city to the suburbs. We were sitting in the park my fiancee and I together with Ellen my daughter. She had this look of absolute wonder and fascination with the green stuff. In the city, parks were a no no (crime and general dirty state; we are in Johannesburg ,SA).Out here in the ‘burbs the air is cleaner and fresher (lots of trees). My daughter can play outside ,which in town in a flat was impossible. Its quiet and, calm.after a few months outside the city when I look at Ellen there is this glow of health about her that fills my heart with joy indescribable.
From day 1i raised Ellen in the only way I knew was best. I’m very non-comformist myself. So Ellen never went to day-care,was breast fed for the whole year. My first word to her a day after her birth was a solid mature “hello”. I forbade everyone from using baby language with her.We spoke to her like an adult from the start such that when she began to speak on her own she shocked people who couldn’t get how a child so young could have so impressive a vocabulary.
She wasn’t allowed to throw tantrums and discipline was not lacking.as a result she was a joy to take out socially. People always commented how well-behaved she was. We made her understand she must never be told something twice. Now she is 5 and the greatest source of my happiness in this world after my wife.
As much as I love my daughter my wife comes first and always will.
Otto Rickards says
First visit to the site and thanks for the great work. My wife stays at home and takes care of our daughter, and I cannot agree with you more on its benefits. After you factor in the costs of daycare, additional tax liability, and just the amount of time and annoyance in shipping kids back and forth to daycare, having my wife stay home was a no brainer for us. Also, she enjoys it and cannot even fathom leaving her baby after six weeks maternity leave to go back to work. Many of our friends who have to do this get very upset when that time comes, and will even break down into tears at work. To us, it is very unnatural, but we have to keep this opinion to ourselves usually out of fear of offending our friends. Also, you are right on the money about the disease factor. We try to avoid our friends who put their kids in daycare, because our daughter will always end up catching something, and then we end up getting sick. I am fighting off a cold right now because of the exposure to all of my nieces/nephews over Thanksgiving. Again, great site, and looking forward to reading more.